Would a tall man of any race have had an older white man pressing a leg up against his the minute he sat down in a plane? I doubt it, though I don’t know ...
Out of curiosity, I asked my DH a few things about how he'd sit on a crowded public transport and he said he'd have no problem with 'touching' other people around him. He also said that if he were asked (nicely or not) he would move and be careful not to touch again. However, he's not tall, but he's stocky and is frequently perceived as grumpy and not someone to cross. And he's also European where I think people tend to live closer with a different idea of personal space and have better manners in general. Still, I just don't think men care or think about it and if they do, they think, because they are men, they have the right to more room. I've dealt with it on planes and buses all my life and have come to file it under 'guy things.' I'll be interested to see if there is any public notice from the airline tho.
As for your work situation, you go girl. Do what you need to make it a good place for you to be and if that doesn't do the trick, then you have tried and can go elsewhere with a clear conscience. My UK pal is attempting a lateral move in her company and had her mentor coach her for her interview for the new position so she would say the 'right' things to get the job. I think having a discussion plan is wise on your part and I hope it works out well for you. ~~sends good luck vibes!~~~~
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Date: 2008-03-08 04:43 am (UTC)Out of curiosity, I asked my DH a few things about how he'd sit on a crowded public transport and he said he'd have no problem with 'touching' other people around him. He also said that if he were asked (nicely or not) he would move and be careful not to touch again. However, he's not tall, but he's stocky and is frequently perceived as grumpy and not someone to cross. And he's also European where I think people tend to live closer with a different idea of personal space and have better manners in general. Still, I just don't think men care or think about it and if they do, they think, because they are men, they have the right to more room. I've dealt with it on planes and buses all my life and have come to file it under 'guy things.' I'll be interested to see if there is any public notice from the airline tho.
As for your work situation, you go girl. Do what you need to make it a good place for you to be and if that doesn't do the trick, then you have tried and can go elsewhere with a clear conscience. My UK pal is attempting a lateral move in her company and had her mentor coach her for her interview for the new position so she would say the 'right' things to get the job. I think having a discussion plan is wise on your part and I hope it works out well for you.
~~sends good luck vibes!~~~~